• “If-you-expect-nothing-from-somebody-you-are-never-disappointed.”―-Sylvia-Plath

    How to spare yourself from disappointment from people.

    How you think someone perceives you: is 100% different from YOU. Everyone is unique. We are all wired differently. How you mentally imagine your family, friends and your boss seeing you is different from you. If you give two people the same image to paint, you will get a different result.

    Assuming people around you should be as you imagine in your head lead to self-suffering. I most of the time i expect my family and friends to respond as i mentally picture it. Which in most case they don’t. This hurt and i get mad at them for not showing up as i expected. I felt what i am asking of them is easy and can be done. If the role were switched, i will do exactly what i want them to do.

    We have these stories on our heads, how people around us should be. Once they don’t match our mental stories we get disappointed. It is about time we start to look at the people as they are, not how it should be. If we go beyond self and start paying attention to who people are. You will learn them very well, by understanding them you will know what to expect and what to ask of them.

    Looking at the world and people as they are, is going beyond your self. It will feel overwhelming and neglecting your our feels. But in the end, You will spare yourself lots of disappointment that you could not otherwise avoid if you perceive people from your frame of mind.

    It takes practice. You have to vigilant, you will fail most time. Above all, if you keep at it, eventually it will become a habit.

    Until next time, be true to yourself.


  • How to build self-confidence

    Self-confidence comes from feeling good about yourself. The best way to feel good about yourself by not neglecting all the small daily disciplines and to know you did your best on whatever you did. Those kinds of days when you feel good about yourself of doing your best it will start to raise self-confidence.

    Good health is self-confidence, eat well-balanced meals and exercise because it makes you feel good and strong. Being in good shape, living a healthy lifestyle and having peace of mind will transmute into feeling good about yours. Yourself image boosts your confidence.

    Cultivate self-confidence by educating your self. Constantly working to improve yourself by taking an extra class, reading books or consulting will help the develop unbelievable self-confidence.

    Self-confidence also comes from the ability to rise above your circumstances. Those discouraging things that prompt someone else to quit but you keep going. You find the willingness to overcome all circumstances.

    Confidence comes from preparation. When you take time to prepare for any events/tasks you are about to take, it will give you the courage to face it in knowing the state that you can accomplish.

    We also build self-confidence through repetition. Anything you aren’t confident about, it only needs repetition for you to master it.

    Read the next blog here: Importance of preparation. Util next time be true to yourself.

  • Importance of preparation.

    Preparation seems like a long excruciating time and the time will just seem like it’ll never come when we can finally have the performance that we want. It takes time to prepare, takes time to get ready. The decisions you make in the preparation time are the decisions that last for a lifetime. Courage comes from preparation. For you to succeed in whatever you do you need to take time to prepare.

    Preparing to have a good day is to start preparing maybe the night before or maybe a couple of days before the day. Few people plan their day but Fewer people still take time to prepare. You can plan all you want, but if you don’t prepare, you still won’t be ready. Invest some time preparing and you’ll be ready to take on the events of your day.

    Life seemingly does not wish to waste success on the unprepared. Fortune not only look for a promise but a prepared person. Ask yourself what can I do to make myself ready. Life was designed not to give us what we want but to give us what we deserve. Confidence comes from the preparation.

    If you find the blog interesting or not interesting leaves me feedback. I would love to hear. Click to read the next blog. You can listen about the importance of preparation by Jim Rohn

    Until next time be true to yourself.


    Have you get to wonder how we humans are one minute we are happy about someone thinking about how much value they have added to our life until they did something that hurt our ego. And there everything we were grateful for we no longer feel that way. 

    Our mind keeps searching for stuff they did in past to fuel the rage we feel inside. Even the good deeds they did in the past for us, cease to be meaningful to us. We start telling ourselves they should have done more or they did that because you have been good to them. The mind doesn’t stop, it keeps twist everything kind done by that person to bad.

    At this point, you are viewing that person from the perspective of resentment. So no matter how good they were to you will not appreciate it. Even by reminding yourself about good time doesn’t feel good anymore. But your mind will still find fault on that too. 


    1. Noticing your thinking not to judge but become aware of it. Paying close attention to the thoughts, don’t even trying to replace it with a good thought, simply examine it. 
    2. Sing or chant a mantra with your inside voice over and over. 

    By doing any of the two tactics, you will gradually decrease, negative thought running on your mind that fuel the feeling of anger towards that person. 

    until next time, be true to yourself. 

  • Creating an extraordinary life- Jim Rohn

    The power of extraordinary performance
    Demanding of yourself excellent results is very important. If you want to live an extraordinary, you must have an extraordinary lifestyle. You want an exceptional income, you must do extraordinary things. If you want a remarkable fortune, you must do what it takes to have that fortune.

    The world doesn’t require that you improve your health, you have to demand of yourself. I bet if you want good health, you have to take responsibility for eating right to eat right and exercise. Schedule in the time for that.

    Society doesn’t oblige that you read a couple of books a week to improve your intelligence and knowledge. You must demand of yourself. Neither does inquire that you build a financial wall around your family. You must demand that if you wish it. You must command it of yourself.

    Until next time be true to yourself.

  • How to be thankful

    ​Take a moment and appreciate what is going in your life. It may be a difficult situation you are going through right now or a happy moment or even nothing is happening. Nothing lasts forever. Look back to your childhood home is still the same as you were a child? Are you in that same place for the last 10 years? Even if you are there something has changed if you take a deep look around you will see.

    Most of our life is full of regrets of action we should have taken in the past or the action we took that ends up becoming a hell of an experience that until today we are horrified by or happy with.

    So let’s start by forgiving ourselves and promise that we will take a close look at the moments, things, people and our environment. Enjoying all the things you possess, knowing that they won’t last long. Value the connection you have they don’t last forever. Take care of your environments, see what value you can add to your surroundings.

    Until next time be true to your self.

  • How to get clarity on what you want.

    Do you get stuck on thinking if you are on the right path or not? The Feel is overwhelming and confusing about where you are to where you want to go.

    You aren’t alone everyone goes through that stage in their life. I am on that stage of life too. Trying to define which path to take that will fulfill me as a person. Taking advice from family and society but still asking myself what do i want?

    Do what you love, follow your passion and look for a profitable career, that is the most common advice you get from people. Sometimes the advice sounds good and safe to follow. Other times if feel terrifying especially when you don’t know what exactly you want in your life.

    It’s okay to not know what you want at the moment, that just means you have the job to figure it out. Write down anything that interests you and starts to explore them, during your spare time. It is a journey of hell of a fun and pushing your limit to discover your self at the same time exhausting. But remember to enjoy every bit of it.

    Until next time be true to yourself.

  • A Message for you; Happy New Year 2020

    Wishing you a happy new year with the hope that………..

    You will take action towards your dream and desires. Let 2020 be the year you work to become the best version of yourself.

    May we all be conscious of what we consume and exercise to have good health in 2020.

    Surround yourself with people that will push you towards your goals. May 2020 you be a friend who adds value to your family and friends.

    You resolve to stop wasting time on the social media content that doesn’t add value in your life.

    Let us look back at the past year with the warmest of memories and learn from the mistake we did in 2019. No one can go back in 2019 to change what has happened, so let’s work on the present to make ourselves a wonderful year.

    2020 has brought another chance for us to set things right and open up a new chapter in our lives. May you be happy the whole year doing things that bring that.

    Unlike what most people think it is never too late to be what you wish to be. So lets us go after what wants to become in 2020. May you live up to the promises you have made and may you create for you and your loved ones the happiest New Year ever.

    Until next time be true to yourself.

  • Communication- The real key to influence me

    The real key to influence me is with your example, your actual conduct. Your ​​example flows naturally out of your character, of the kind of person you truly are — not what others say you are or what you may want me to think you are. It is evident in how I experience you.

    Your character is constantly radiating, communicating. From it, in the long run, I come to instinctively trust or distrust you and your efforts with me.

    If your life runs hot and cold, if you’re both caustic and kind, and, above all, if your private performance doesn’t square with your public performance, it’s very hard for me to open up with you.

    Then, as much as I may want and even need to receive your love and influence, I don’t feel safe enough to expose my opinions and experiences and my tender feelings.

    Who knows what will happen? But unless I open up with you, unless you understand me and my unique situation and feelings, you won’t know how to advise or counsel me.

    What you say is good and fine, but it doesn’t quite pertain to me. You may say you care about and appreciate me. I desperately want to believe that. But how can you appreciate me when you don’t even understand me? All I have are your words, and I can’t trust words.

    I’m too angry and defensive — perhaps too guilty and afraid — to be influenced, even though inside I know I need what you could tell me. Unless you’re influenced by my uniqueness, I’m not going to be influenced by your advice.

    So if we want to be effective in the habit of interpersonal communication, we cannot do it with technique alone. We have to build the skills of empathic listening on a base of character that inspires openness and trust. And we have to build the Emotional Bank Accounts that create commerce between hearts.

    Until next time Be true to yourself.

    Reference from The 7 Habits of highly effective people.

  • The Love of God

    Gentle as silence
    OH, the love of my Lord is the essence
    of all that i love here on earth
    All the beauty i see Hear has given to me
    and is giving is gentle as silence

    Every day, every moment, every hour
    Have been blessed by the strength of His love
    At the turn of each tide, His there by my side
    and his touch is as gentle as silence.

    Until next time be true to yourself.