What is love? What is desire? I have often misunderstood two in all my relationships. I mistake my desires for love and love for desire. When i start reading Esther Perel’s book, It opens my mind to a new perception. Here is a snip peek about love verse desire from her book.
Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between two people, while desire is energized by it.
Intimacy vs Eroticism
If intimacy grows through repetition and familiarity, eroticism is numbed by repetition. It thrives on the mysterious, the novel, and the unexpected.
Love is about having; desire is about wanting. An expression of longing, desire requires ongoing elusiveness. It is less concerned with where it has already been than passionate about where it can still go. But too often, as couples settle into the comforts of love, they cease to fan the flame of desire. They forget that fire.
I highly recommend you reading her book or listen to her book YouTube video.
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
Until next time, be true to yourself.